BONITA SPRINGS — The Lee County Sheriff’s Office identified the remains found in Bonita Springs last week as those of a waiter who disappeared months ago.
Timothy “Tim” Alston Twilley, 46, of Bonita Springs, was positively identified by the Sheriff’s Office through dental records.
Twilley, who is an insulin-dependent diabetic, was missing for almost three months, family members said. His remains were found in a wooded area off Old 41 Road near the Collier-Lee county line on May 9.
The Sheriff’s Office confirmed a missing person’s report was filed in April. In the report filed by Twilley’s sister, Cindy, she said she hadn’t seen him since Feb. 26 — 12 days after his birthday.
Cindy Twilley said deputies came to her door last Wednesday night saying they believe they found her brother. Dental records came back positive on Tuesday.
Cindy Twilley said they were hoping to keep the information under wraps so Mother’s Day wouldn’t be marred for their 82-year-old mother by the news of her son’s death.
“We didn’t want her to know,” Cindy Twilley said. “We’re just trying to take it day by day.”
Tim Twilley had a history of drug abuse, according to Sheriff’s Office records, including possession of oxycodone and multiple DUIs. He also was arrested in Palm Beach County for probation violation.
Susan Alderman, a family friend, described Twilley as a nice guy, great with kids, but dealing with a difficult past. He was working as a waiter at Mel’s Diner in Bonita Springs.
“He had a drug problem in the past,” Alderman said. “But he was doing real well for a while, living with Cindy, working and off drugs.”
Family members and friends thought Twilley met some friends and continued celebrating his birthday, Alderman said. After a month went by and Cindy Twilley learned her brother’s friend transferred the title of her brother’s 1978 Harley-Davidson motorcycle into his name, she grew suspicious, according to the missing persons report.
Even though Cindy Twilley knew her brother had a drug problem and would sometimes leave for a little while, she filed the missing person’s report fearing the worst, Alderman said. The Sheriff’s Office said the death did not seem suspicious and ruled out foul play.
Twilley hadn’t picked up his insulin dose in weeks, family and friends said.
The family has been out to the site and laid flowers. A memorial service is being planned.